Would tell your fiance all of your past relationships?

[beatrix]

Honesty is the very foundation of every relationship but is there a thing called too much honesty. Exactly how much of your past should your future partner know? What if some mistakes in your past may lead to jeopardizing your current relationship. Are some secrets better buried away..? Share your thoughts.

[nawza07]

Absolutely I will not tell her. It will make problems she/he may ask many questions and make you bored especially when they want to know your secret. Not a cheating but only to keep the relationship. If you at their place you will ask the same questions, right?

[rmholla]

If something so bad happened in your past that it could threaten your relationship then you might want to fess up. Secrets like that always seem to find the light of day.

Your partner might have things like that in their past too.

And if they either cannot or will not accept what happened before you met them then you are better off knowing that now and moving on. No reason to waste time on a relationship that is doomed.

[b2breps]

Yes, what is the big deal. She knows that I have dated and had relationships before she came into my life. Why would I try and hide that from her. Honesty is the cornerstone of our relationship.

[BCRoller]

Everyone has a past and, regardless of how good or bad some may perceive them, I always think it best to open up and "tell it like it is" to the one you intend to spend your life with. No one can erase their past and, sooner or later, the past will catch up with you anyway so it's not likely any 'secrets' you have will remain that way forever (and who wants to be looking over their shoulder all the time worrying when "that" day will come?). I've told (and still tell) my husband virtually everything, whether past or current and he, too, does the same with me. Sure, I've done things in my life I can't exactly say I'm proud of but, "who cares?" Nobody is perfect and nobody does everything perfectly so why be ashamed/afraid/etc of admitting that you have (and still do and likely will do again) made mistakes? After all, we learn from our mistakes so making them is just another tool for learning which, in my opinion, is actually a good thing as opposed to a bad one. As for past relationships in themselves, yes, my husband knows all about mine and I know everything there is to know about his. I have no qualms about how many girlfriends/lovers/etc he's had before me nor do I care, that was "his" life to live, not mine and, heck, it's all in the past anyway so why concern myself over them now? As a matter of fact, of the past relationships he has had before me, I'm the one who usually convinces him to try to find and reconnect with those women because I think it would be good for him to do so. Now, some of them (because of my persistence), are on his Facebook friends list (including "lovey-dovey" type pics he had taken with them way back when, lol) and it thrills me to know that he can connect with them without having to worry about repercussions from me for doing so. Needless to say, keeping in touch with those relationships from the past (whether platonic or serious) can be very good for the soul.

[MzDlectble]

Personally, i'm curious about my ex's past. I find it like a form of measurement to see where i stand. Though clearly theres something wrong with me LOL!

[Dixyboy]

I think I would tell her, but only if she asked. I don't think there's been one relationship in my life that I would feel ashamed of telling her. I have been with a fair amount of girls and I'm sure my girlfriend has been with a fair amount of guys as well. Just be sure to tell the truth and everything will be fine.

[Susan]

I feel that my future husband does not need to know all my secrets, or the things of the past. I feel that I am marrying "him" and the past should not be an issue, and it should be left in the past. I am pretty sure he would not even want to know about my past experiences. My boyfriends' tend to be very jealous, and they don't like to discuss anything like that, anyway.