Happiness 23 - Current social effects of personal pain and hurt

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What inflicting possessiveness feels like:
Love you feel for someone that never gets to be loved by you implies that that someone doesn’t have the capacity of love around or for you. You prevent, inadvertently, that person loving you because of your methods of loving that person. Consider: What can be done about people you can’t control and possess? Convince them to let you control and possess them? Certainly. It can be done. You teach them unlimited happiness, unlimited strength, unlimited love. They´ll give you anything you want. Of course, you have to learn unlimited happiness, unlimited strength, unlimited love to teach it. Then you probably won’t want to control them, since you live as, and thereby allow, unlimited happiness, unlimited strength, unlimited love. How about controlling them so they remain limited. You have to do limited type things to keep them limited. You will be controlling yourself to learn limitations and do limitations and remain limitations, therefore limited yourself. The person who accepts a life of limited happiness, limited fun with others, limited joy, limited acceptance, limited strength, and limited love, plus LIMITED RELATIONSHIPS will probably have relationships that will be difficulties. They seem to have forgotten their innate sense of believing in the unlimited and non-limited (minimally, of true friendship, baby love, intimate love, etc.). They probably will force the angst they have to be common amongst society and therefore something they may never do without. Self-defeating. They might have some sense of satisfaction with themselves that seems adequate for their existence. Most people who are angst-oriented seem to need to feel a sense of satisfaction (misguided, incorrect, fallacious, wrong, unsatisfactory, evil though it maybe) to feel happy. Implying their normal need for satisfaction. This form of happiness that the angst-oriented person has can always be made into unhappiness when expressed upon someone who is not angst-oriented. Truly, the angst-oriented person doesn’t really have any sure happiness. The evil person who uses evil to be happy has the necessity of finding someone who is not evil to take out their evil upon. Doing this type of evil to a good person results in the evil person feeling less than the good person because the evil person has to be limitation and angst oriented to do evil upon a good person, because of knowing that the good person was and is and wants to remain a good person regardless of any evil the evil person is or does. Reread the passages you have highlighted to decide upon happiness and goodness.

Perpetuating evil upon someone because of Envy, Jealousy, Spite, Hatred results in feeling Envy, Jealousy, Spite, Hatred perpetually (at least as long as you do those things). These feelings commonly result in Psychological Damage or Psychological Death. The evil you do upon someone eventually is evil that you will feel yourself detrimentally. Feelings for someone that you try to satisfy any way possible, have little effect for limited type angst-oriented people. These feelings, if satisfied, remain limited and angst-oriented. People who decide to force limited and angst-oriented feelings on people, usually get some sense of regret. Why? Limited love is the angst of not feeling true love that is boundless and pure and ever-certain and strengthening and enjoyable and blissful and the natural love you felt as a baby. Settling for satisfying love that has no blissfulness to it, is love that results in angst and despair and pain eventually. [4/30/99 Comment: I have decided that as human reality has proven, any love is better than no love.] Also, memories that result from satisfying limited love are memories of angst and despair and pain. Broken hearts result from satisfying limited love. Respecting the wants of love and allowing such respect is open to all. [12/5/99 Comment: Very Good Love is Friendship first, Bliss/Intimacy second, Sex third.]

Men who feel they are superior to women for the only reason that they are not women, is fallacious because women come from LARGER structures (ova are much larger than sperm). Women are also people that Nature decided to perpetuate species. Nature imbues women with the strength of the universe because women create babies to live in this universe. Men who want to be as strong and equal to women must live the ideal life. The ideal life forces such people to treat anything as something that has worthwhile meaning to it, regardless of what anyone does or feels. Respect. Why respect? Respect allows you to accept that life has meaning for you and you have meaning for you. Anybody can be capable of respect.

People who don´t mature are people who feel hurt, and misery, and angst, and evil, and pain, and regret, and loss, and depression for much of their lives as immature feelers of hurt, misery, angst, evil, pain, regret, loss, and depression. People who decide to perpetuate their angst upon someone results in feelings of irritation. How can irritation satisfy committing angst upon someone? Such satisfactions probably come from minds that are annoyed, hurt, petty, spiteful, irritable, angst-filled, weak, hurt, depressed, angry, bitter, jealous, envious, disgusting, and loss oriented. These people who use their powers against the wills of others get to feeling like they have lost any power that will allow them to feel like a life that is free of angst is something they will be able to appreciate. Self defeating. See Chapters 6, 7, 9, 11, 13, 18 to be mature.
How can doing something to someone against their will result in any feelings of bliss, purity, unlimited love, and satisfied affairs. It doesn’t. The paltry satisfactions and feelings arising from doing something to someone against their will don´t result in bliss, purity, unlimited love, and satisfied affairs. Hurting someone because of feeling hurt for the reason that that someone doesn’t allow any kind of relationship with you, that satisfies your needs for love and sex, results in feeling like that someone doesn’t satisfy your needs for love and sex plus feeling HURT. Self-defeating. Using your time to hurt someone means not having time to feel something else besides hurt. Exacting vengeance because of a broken heart results in not getting to love someone with bliss, purity, unlimited love, and satisfactory affairs. Not getting to feel self-assured, relationally strong, independent confidence, and respect for oneself or attitudes. Not getting to feel any sense of love from the person you exacted vengeance upon. Self-defeating. Read Chapter 18.

When death occurs, being banished to an existence that has NEVER realized love from those you exacted vengeance upon is the ultimate in self defeat. The ultimate self-defeat of having loved and lost because of selfishness. See Chapters 2, 12, 13, 14, 15, 18.

Deciding upon evil because of feeling like you had expected to feel love the way you feel love that you didn’t get is gonna result in not getting any love from anyone who is good; AND not feeling love THE WAY you feel love from those you love. Self-defeating. Decide on your possible goodness to find someone to love.

Trying to compete against people who are very capable existents results in losing the senses of appreciation, enjoyment, satisfaction, stimulation, bliss, and love. Why? Because only weak, incapable people decide to compete against strong, capable people WITH the thinking their weak incapacities are really capable strengths. Strong, capable people don’t compete because they don’t need to compete. What do they do then? They improve upon human existence. Since you are a human, these people improve upon your existence. You have the innate possibility to be the same.

The distorted human conditions: selfish gossip, selfish competition, cheating, selfishness.

The current social effects of personal pain and hurt: Pained and/or hurt individuals behave stressed or stressful, needy, discordant at times because of the pain and/or hurt, desperate, disoriented, sad, depressed, negative, and limited at times; and sometimes express excuses for these behaviors instead of improving their condition.

The significances of sorrow: Sorrow is stressful subjective experiences that, at times, unappreciatively affect your vitality, or your vibrancy, or your needs, or your emotions, or your feelings, or your thoughts.

The significances of anger: Anger is subjective reactions, at times, to stress, to something unappreciative, to conflict, and to selfishness.

The significances of cultural beliefs: Effectually, values, individuality, order, and feelings are sufficient for socialization and fun. Much of modern culture believes that values, individuality, order, feelings, and intelligence are necessary for socialization and fun.

The ruinous effects of envy: Envy is selfish, amoral, negative, not good, bad, or evil, delusional, consuming sometimes, regretted, resented, reactive sometimes, burdensome and sometimes harmful to society, jealous, and competitive, the envious sometimes tell their envy to others and sometimes try to get others envious. Irresponsible envy wastes and loses potentials and sometimes hurts itself.

The harmful effects of selfish competition: Selfish competition is irresponsible, aggressive, negative, socially bad, haphazards the emotions, and sometimes useless. Selfish competitors sometimes only believe in winning or losing instead of social and civic participation.

The personal significances of regret: Individuals believing some dissatisfaction with themselves sometimes become socially discordant or indolent. They behave frustrated, complain, bother others, and possibly ignore opportunity. The regret sometimes preoccupies them with dissatisfaction much of their time. Sometimes completely ignoring their useful possibilities of living and realization. With stress management and philosophical exercise the individual could try doing something appreciative for themselves.

The effects of gossiping competitors: Various individuals hear about the noticeable sophistication or accomplishments of others. Because of the competitors desire for social advancement they sometimes resent sophistication or accomplishment—insisting such people are negatives. These competitors sometimes initiate unfair competition with the sophisticated or accomplished because of believing that if someone is worthily good then someone else (including themselves) have to be worthless. Thereby justifying to themselves unfair competition. Suggestion: Participate in social reform for mutual social advancement. Examples: Global minimums of pay for any work. Ordered social economies and government.

The effects and significances of being intentionally irregular for negative beliefs or consequences: Sometimes individuals intentionally stressing values choose to differ with the values of others because of considering those values worthless, harmful, or enviable. These people sometimes try to be hindrances to social harmony and personal development because of selfish justifications. It is better to be appreciatively social and developed personally (personality); instead of behaving complicated.

Discord, accident, pain, stress, disease, risk, and crime sometimes might be a difficulty.

The significances of bad consequences: If you do something with problematic possibilities, that something might result in problematic consequences.

The significances of Irrational Personality: The psychology or philosophy of humans sometimes is noninnocuous to Human Psychology or Philosophy.

Solving complexity: Psychological complexity—stress management. Philosophical complexity—autonomous or individual good. Mathematical complexity—a continuance or duration of set theory, number theory, and complexity theory. You can use this to solve the mathematical complexity of death functions, reincarnation, the afterlife, and immortality. Actually, of anything at all.

Effectively managing the 3 complex irrationals of immaturity, too many young having children, and acts of God; should result in a comfortable society of humanity. The wealthy desirous of comfort, could contribute to the human condition of comfort. A comfortable society wouldn’t burden itself with bad or evil.

Afterlife mechanics: There are 3 possibilities for the afterlife. Consciousness shifts from set C to Set D of set infinity. The range of set C isn’t completely known. The range of set D is unknown. The domain of set C exists real. The domain of set D exists real. Set D defined as CD or D. The domain of set D includes, at least, fractals, surrreals, fractal math and physics, surreal math and physics, negentropy, and some amount of set-infinity. The 3 possibilities are: 1) Some Set D’s exists as Set D (including fractal consciousness). 2) Some set D’s can become equivalent to set C. 3) With a probability larger than 0, some set D’s are equivalent to set C.

The significances of affected stress: Stress results in disturbance, uneasiness, disease, psychological difficulty, regret, fatigue, dicord, social discord, pain and hurt….Factors of stress: childhood pain, childhood hurt, trauma, excessive distortion, bad people, discord, accident, social irregularity, violence, emotional violence, dis-ease, fatigue, pain and hurt.

Having attained adequate instruction to realize what you truly like about yourself and what you don’t like about yourself and also adequate instruction to repair your psychological stresses--you could choose to live happily as you desire. See Chapters 1, 3, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 13, 17, 18, 19.


Subtitle: Human Potential