Happiness 21 - Decide not to blame others for your hurt

[George's Books]

WISDOM YOU WON’T DENY OR FIND UNACCEPTABLE
(I recommend you read the first 15 chapters before reading this chapter.)

You should read this chapter as if a wise adult or a wise teacher were telling you.

Don't limit yourself to less than respect and happiness since you expect respect and happiness. Don’t be less than respect and happiness if you respect and expect respect and happiness.

The Historical Development of Personality Strengths:

What you do does what you can do. What you can do is because of what you have done. Do only what you want to do, so you can be able to do what-you-will-want-to-do. Enough to want to want to do. The best way not to feel like you have nothing to do. Wisdom for not being self defeating. You are capable of many possibilities that you are also capable of appreciating.

Doing something mistakenly results in feeling like you have done a mistake. What does this feeling do? You feel like you are someone who doesn’t feel anything but mistakes and possibly not know what to do about those mistakes. Such decisions and their associated feelings result in people who usually don’t get any satisfaction, etc. The choice is yours. Don’t insist on perpetuating mistakes.

Anything you do nonworthwhile wastes your time. Wasting your time results in ONLY nonworthwhiles for you throughout the wasted time. Decide to learn and live as worthwhile as you can decide.


AN ORDER OF KNOWN PERSONALITY SIGNIFICANTS:

(l: largest personality significant - 10: smallest personality significant) (assumption)

1) Director of Human Advancement/Evolution/Development
2) Resonating Strength Loving Giving Socialist
3) Strong Independent Individual Person
4) Learning Calm Self-Assurance
5) Angry Tired Selfish Weakling
6) Evil [A significance that damagingly forces you down the developmental scale, if it
does] (partial definition; applicable only in certain instances)
7) Crazy Dysfunctional Burden Type
8) Incapable of Vitality/Vibrancy
9) Comatose
10) Dead
Most people are #1 to #4.
The following is at least one possibility for the afterlife:
11) Reorientation of the finite and transfinite numbers that you and your existence are
12) Point and line symmetry (at least) and repositories of fractal and surreal sets; and possibly their math
and physics
13) Some form of numerical symmetry
14) The numerical symmetry is gathered by the celestially angelic and given a significance more than a
fractal or surreal number
15) Biophysics or continuum reincarnation of numerical symmetry
16) Randomly coinciding numerical symmetries and information symmetries attain something more
significant than surreal or fractal numbers



KNOWN LEVELS OF ADULT PERSONALITY:

1: First attained - 8: Last attained

1) Happy
2) Mature
3) Sophisticated
4) Capable of Anything
5) Responsible Inventor
6) Service to Heaven
7) Adopted by Heaven
8) Immortal

Most people can get to #7 for themselves.

Say 2:4 was currently someone´s personality significance and level of adult personality. They would be 2) resonating strength loving giving socialist, and 4) capable of anything.

The not-that-bad significance of angst can be learned by reading chapters 4, 5, 6, 7, AND 8, 18. Also, you can feel the not that bad feeling by accepting the simple fact that when you read the term “hurt” you don’t hurt. If hurt, rest and read Chapter 18.

A DEFINITION OF ANGST: Feeling something you would rather not.

A SOLUTION FOR ANGST: Try to feel something you would want to.

ANY Insult can be reinterpreted to have some developmental wisdom value to it.
ANY Statement the Positive can decide to feel Positive with.

Intending to invade people’s privacy may result in distress since denied privacy may be distressing. Vitality/Vibrancy states that can resist intrusion and irritation-annoyance by poltergeists, ghosts and invisibles should be learned; if you can’t teach self-responsibility to those individuals.

Since some people have weakened psychologically or have chosen to think fatalistically, they at times don’t know what to do to make themselves happy. These people sometimes participate in unhappiness and psychological weakness or, if they get to it, return to normal development. If not, they might later on regress to negativity and hatred or, if they get to it, return to normal development. If not, they might regress even more to self destruction or, if they get to it, return to normal development. If not, they at times decide the reactional conditional of emotional violence and social evil, or if they get to it, return to normal development. Returning to normal development doesn’t have a severe weight of capacity for most people regardless of who they are. For a small amount of them, though, they do something that gets them hurt and then they lose existence and are soon forgotten by the normally developed. That small amount, denying the relative easiness of returning to normal development, many times didn’t participate in worthwhile activities in their lifetimes because of their time consuming regressive behavior.

Sometimes you choose distorted or discordant behavior and thinking for yourself because of being affected and reactionally conditional deciding to perpetuate the distortion or discord. Because this condition exists within society currently, don’t use the undersirable methods of instant selfish gratification and/or instant selfish assumptions--since the function of existential mechanics doesn’t give it enough time to satisfy you. An adequate reason not to do such things. Decide to be sociable and civilized and respectful of society and civilization. You will learn clear, nondistorted human behavior by reading this entire book.

Anger usually results as a reactive response to some happiness of yours that seemed necessarily or situationally evident and existentially given--to begin with--that then someone selfishly did something to ignore what you were doing, and express annoyance instead. Nevertheless, choosing a moral action and acting on the dynamics of the anger or the unhappiness allows the possibility for you to remain autonomous with your happiness. You can train yourself to decisively react to choose moral actions for yourself at all times—takes exercise.

Happiness and anger sometimes exist in relation to each other. Making real the possibility that anger doesn’t necessarily mean the total end and complete nonexistence of happiness. Allowing you to regain happiness when you no longer feel angry.

I would like to emphasize that you would appreciate feelings with senses other than that of polarized opposites.

Anger, as a function of angst relating to happiness, exists because of a former happiness that is no longer happy. Therefore, anger can be seen as related to happiness as something happiness might resort to. You can then see happiness as something that anger does not necessarily and completely deny as possible. Why we usually stop irritating each other and regain normal serenity. Nevertheless, don’t assume that anger will automatically imply that you’ll be happy again anyway after expressing irritation and anger. Try and feel that you are someone possessing many emotions and feelings for many situations and experiences, instead.
The emotion of pain when you hurt yourself so that you would decide to repair yourself. The emotion of rejection to keep yourself safe instead of choosing to jump off a cliff. The emotion of feeling to understand life instead of being feelingly emotional to incapably force its existence. (Incapably, because emotions don’t have any physics altering or metaphysics altering capacities.) See Chapter 13.

Different Personality Lifestyles are methods for any Individual to decide on their Personality Lifestyle and which Vitality/Vibrancy significances they want to attach to it. Different Lifestyles allow people the chance to keep their associative disciplines to civilized capacity. Different Lifestyles are for the purpose of Learning and Teaching Human Discipline Capacity. Any Lifestyle can be used to feel a sense of unlimited feeling. The individual sense that is felt should be utilized for participating in Human Discipline Capacity. Assuming Lifestyles are Styles of LIFE.

Developing Concentration Skills and Intensity allows you to have a sense of youth and vigor to master any situation.

Different Molecular Groupings of Humans allow Humans to be Individuals. The molecular structure of basic genes are all the same for all people.

People who seem to be physically and mentally better than other people are people who got to be that way because of food, cleanliness, family, education, learning, practice, discipline, and attitude. (Necessarily in the individually adequate amounts). What can you do if you feel like you want to be like those you think are better than you? You can find many institutions and businesses that can make you better physically and mentally. Those who have done this, also try to help others do this, and so on.

A common bad is that distortions affect many people that then usually are unaware they are interacting distorted. These people insist they are behaving normal and won´t understand your attempts to correct their distorted interactions. The best that you can do for these people is that another topic that casually informs them of normal behavior is available. Also, mention continuing their education. Recommend this book.

Uncontrolled Damaging Hurt that cannot be Alleviated or Repaired is only terminal if you die. Decide not to blame others for your hurt. Usually, you started the reason for feeling hurt in the first place (minimally, involving yourself in a not good situation without adequate ways to help yourself in case you do something wrong). Try to find help from a family member or friend. Try to help yourself. Don’t let the hurt control and impair your needs for happiness and contentment. If you do, you will have a difficult time alleviating and repairing your hurt. Tip: find someone to help you forget your memories. See chapters 3, 5, 6, 7, 8 and 9, 18.