Do you easily forgive someone? Do you forgive and forget?

nick08 · ,

hi friends, i have an interesting question for you: if someone makes a mistake, can you forgive him/her easily? Even if you were able to forgive, it is not always easy to forget what wrong he/she did to you. If not will you try to take revenge for what he/she did to you. What's your opinion on this matter? Please do share your thoughts here.

bloggy · ,

It always depends on how much they have hurted you and in what means..
I would forgive or remember what happened to me and what they did, but i never try to take any revenge against that, as i feel what the difference would be between me and the person who hurted me.

Its actually always hard for me to forget things like love etc. where i was hurted and i have experienced that. I could not do anything and can't forget that incident. Still i remain as usual and try to avoid that topic anywhere else.

Oasis · ,

Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. So if people hurt you or cause you troubles you should forgive them. Of course it is at times hard to forget what has happened. This is why once two people have argued and seen the bad side of each other, their relationship usually would never be the same again. Sometimes it would be worse but sometimes it would make the relationship even closer.

zentrix · ,

Well it actually depends on what someone does to me. If it is just a small matter, I will forgive him easily and forget about what happened but if they mess up with me, i think I'm gonna need some time to forgive him, but i'll try with all my might to forgive him. Since i know it won't bring us any good thing to hate anybody.One thing that i learn is that forgive isn't about CAN or CANNOT forgive, but it's the matter of WANT or NOT WANT to forgive.
Many people say that they can't forgive, but it's actually they DON'T WANT to forgive, they keep all the hatred and hoping to make them pay.
If u WANT to forgive, u CAN forgive, even though it may takes time too.

ebittner · ,

Generally I can forgive people for most things very quickly as life is just too short to get caught up on things and not talk to people anymore. If I can not get over something with someone I just put myself away from them so I don't have to deal with it and all of the fighting that would go along with it. Right now I can not think of anyone I am still mad at about something or another.

justlearn · ,

A very good and interesting topic

Forgiveness requires lots of guts, you have to fight with your own will and control yourself to forgive somebody. I usually forgive people, I am a person with lots of patience. It gets even tougher to forgive when somebody does the same mistakes again and again. but still there has to be some limit till when you could forgive, at times you have to be strong and even pay back.

Julklex · ,

Well, sometimes I feel I'm ready to forgive someone else, but my pride prevents me from doing so, so I guess you could say I don't forgive easily.

MattChow · ,

This is a good topic, it boils down to our own sentiments and feelings.

My answer would be, I do and I don't easily forgive someone. I can easily forgive someone if I know that he/she doesn't exactly mean what they did, like old men jumping to a vacant seat on the bus when your supposed to sit on it because they have rheumatism or what. I can always forgive that.

But if I know that the deed was done with the intention of really hurting me, especially my family, then I don't easily forgive that.

Walker · ,

Well...it actually depends on what the circumstances is...and who is to be forgiven....

If a person has committed a mistake unknowingly...then it is very easy for me to forgive him.....but if the mistake was done purposefully....then that person has to not only forget of being forgiven, but instead should be ready for a pay-back....

There is one person though..in this world...who always is forgiven by me...always...for whatever the mistakes are....done knowingly or unknowingly....and that is my wife...

Regards,

Walker

crowhit · ,

Maybe I can forgive him/her if I think the mistake he/she did was for good and I could also do that if I was in his/her place.
But I generally don't forgive people who do mistakes when they know the consequences of their actions.

ro1e · ,

I always forgive people. we are humans and sometimes we wrong.
But if someone was wrong in a way that it hurt me, so I did not forget him so quickly.
A lot of my acquaintances from the past forgave me, but they still remember me what I did.

I say: Friends are Friends and you need to forgive each other (:

Atubiga · ,

He who forgives is always forgiven. Forgive and forget so the Lord thy God can forgive you your sins. We are human beings and human beings are full of errors. We all make mistakes but the wise man is the one who learns from his mistakes and from the mistakes of others. The wise man is the one who always tries to find a space in his heart to forgive his neighbor. Forgive and forget so our world can be a better place. Forgive and forget so you can live longer.

zowie · ,

I know it is better to forget other people for their mistakes and let go. I try to practice this in my life as much as possible. But it is not possible to do this in practice as the concept is preached. Many a times the bad feelings are going to stay back in your memory and going to come back and haunt you.

Aleiah · ,

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Originally Posted by Walker

There is one person though..in this world...who always is forgiven by me...always...for whatever the mistakes are....done knowingly or unknowingly....and that is my wife...

hahaha... that's great to hear, walker.. my husband also forgives me every now and then, even i do something that would purposely make him mad, but its not too bad that would create friction to our relationship also. and i love that fact that he humbles himself for me, too. even though, i sometimes don't forgive easily, he still understands. but it its somebody or a friend, who purposely does something against me such as deceit and betrayal, well, i can't forgive easily and that could last for a lifetime.

shailbpl · ,

Forgiving is hard! But I can do it, no problem.
Depending on the situation the time may vary to forgive someone...
as of now I've forgiven all those who have hurt me in one way or another...
If you don't forgive, it only causes harm to your emotions, seriously....i agree....you can't forgive the person so easily....

oxis · ,

Forgiving is not as easy as chewing bubble gums and spitting them out when you think they're tasteless. It takes so much of time, much effort to forgive and forget what is said and done. It takes some time to learn that it is only when you forgive others that you can forgive yourself for whatever hurt it may bring back to you. Forgiving is not enough to heal the bursting feelings of revenge. One has to entail the will to forget for it is only by forgetting what wrongs they did to you that you can start moving on.

ZammaJann · ,

If somebody makes a mistake, even a selfish careless mistake, even if they should have known better, it is easy for me to forgive them.

If somebody maliciously hurts me, and then later is truly sorry for the act and tries to make amends, it is difficult for me to forgive, but I will do my best to forgive that person.

If somebody maliciously hurts me and is not sorry for the act, then I cannot provide forgiveness. Even though I know it might be better for me spiritually to just forgive that person and move on. If they are not sorry for an intentional hurt they have done to me, then I cannot forgive that.

Kofi · ,

I try to forgive those who offend me because I was trained to do so. However, it is not easy forgiving someone when you know for sure that what they did to you was intentional. If someone feels sorry for what they have done to you then the right thing is to forgive and forget. However, when the offender doesn't see any mistake in what he or she did to you, then becomes really difficult to forgive such people.

spyece · ,

I remember my past where i have troubled my friends a lot and they have troubled me equally, I always feel that the relationship between two people is equal, you keep respecting people and they keep respecting you. So when some one makes a mistake like maybe he or she might hurt me then i mostly forgive them as i try real hard to maintain relationship, but i do let them know that they have made this mistake and they should avoid it, and then i let them decide what to do. But sometimes i do loose control on myself and never forgive someone.

clise · ,

I will forgive a person depending on their mistakes. I can hold a grudge on someone for years but I can forgive someone only after a few second he/she irks me.

I sound complicated, am I? :p

ThatGirl · ,

It depends on how bad the mistake was, and whether or not it had been malicious or intentional. Generally, I forgive easily enough, and my anger passes quickly. I am even able to forgive big things and continue my relationships well. But I have no problems cutting ties with those who meant to hurt me, or those that I love, or who make a lot of 'mistakes'.

Charles · ,

I don't think forgiving is always the easiest thing in the world to do - however I feel that you should always forgive everyone so I try my hardest to do so. Forgiving however does not mean you should not protect yourself in the future from being wronged again - especially if it caused physical or economic harm.

0099 · ,

well this question is as difficult as the implementation. forgiving some one is a matter of great patience and courage. its takes a lot of self introspection ans control to let go of someone who has hurt you mentally or physically. but once you do something like this you realize that you have placed yourself in a much better position than the culprit. it also takes a lot of time to totally forget about the wrong done to you as it is the human tendency to remember the bad even if it forgets the good.....

r1superman · ,

This all depends on the situation. If someone had a bad day and decided to let it out on me I would forgive them because I know we all have those kind of days. However if they are a close friend and they back stab me, or something of that nature it is going to take a lot more than a simple "I'm sorry," for me to forgive them!

powerlifer · ,

Due to being so messed over by people in my life i have massive trust issues in which if someone does something i cant forgive them easily at all and i end up ending the relationship quickly even for minor things.

I guess its going to take someone who isn't a fraud, liar etc to build my trust back up in people in general.

It can take a lot of time mentally to heal from peoples mistakes ive found and that doesn't happen overnight.

poster87 · ,

Honestly. it depends what he or she did because if he or she did
something minor.. its going to be easy to forgive him or her. as for something major i honestly will never forgive him.. well i would
but i'll be hard to forget about it.

ZCY3270 · ,

That depends on the nature of the error. If it is small things, I will be very easy to forgive it. If it is a matter of principle then I would think this person has bad character and stay away from him.

nishant20 · ,

it is always preferable to forgive someone and not looking for revenge always because if all the people in the world would start looking for revenge it would definatly increase violence in the world and would destroy the world's peace slowly and steadily
moreover, if you are religious, believe in god.if you have not done wrong to anybody, surely you will also lead a good life

cena_john · ,

It depends from person to person. I don't want to loose a good friend for silly prank he has played on me. if somebody plays double games at work then definitely i don't want to forgive him/her. He is to be taken to task then

ferdousx · ,

There are two terms - revenge and avenge. I think it is because it depends on the crime. If someone needs to payback you have to do it. But the best thing is to forgive. Who knows may be, he will repent and become a good person some day. I always try to forgive others if something bad happens to me. But I guess I am not always able to do that. but, as I said, I try. Because, I believe nobody is better than nobody.

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nick08 Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 30	Do you easily forgive someone? Do you forgive and forget? hi friends, i have an interesting question for you: if someone makes a mistake, can you forgive him/her easily? Even if you were able to forgive, it is not always easy to forget what wrong he/she did to you. If not will you try to take revenge for what he/she did to you. What's your opinion on this matter? Please do share your thoughts here.

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bloggy Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 29	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? It always depends on how much they have hurted you and in what means.. I would forgive or remember what happened to me and what they did, but i never try to take any revenge against that, as i feel what the difference would be between me and the person who hurted me. Its actually always hard for me to forget things like love etc. where i was hurted and i have experienced that. I could not do anything and can't forget that incident. Still i remain as usual and try to avoid that topic anywhere else.

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Oasis Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 33	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. So if people hurt you or cause you troubles you should forgive them. Of course it is at times hard to forget what has happened. This is why once two people have argued and seen the bad side of each other, their relationship usually would never be the same again. Sometimes it would be worse but sometimes it would make the relationship even closer.

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zentrix Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 6	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? Well it actually depends on what someone does to me. If it is just a small matter, I will forgive him easily and forget about what happened but if they mess up with me, i think I'm gonna need some time to forgive him, but i'll try with all my might to forgive him. Since i know it won't bring us any good thing to hate anybody.One thing that i learn is that forgive isn't about CAN or CANNOT forgive, but it's the matter of WANT or NOT WANT to forgive. Many people say that they can't forgive, but it's actually they DON'T WANT to forgive, they keep all the hatred and hoping to make them pay. If u WANT to forgive, u CAN forgive, even though it may takes time too.

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ebittner Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 26	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? Generally I can forgive people for most things very quickly as life is just too short to get caught up on things and not talk to people anymore. If I can not get over something with someone I just put myself away from them so I don't have to deal with it and all of the fighting that would go along with it. Right now I can not think of anyone I am still mad at about something or another.

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justlearn Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 10	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? A very good and interesting topic Forgiveness requires lots of guts, you have to fight with your own will and control yourself to forgive somebody. I usually forgive people, I am a person with lots of patience. It gets even tougher to forgive when somebody does the same mistakes again and again. but still there has to be some limit till when you could forgive, at times you have to be strong and even pay back.

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Julklex Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 25	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? Well, sometimes I feel I'm ready to forgive someone else, but my pride prevents me from doing so, so I guess you could say I don't forgive easily.

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MattChow Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 35	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? This is a good topic, it boils down to our own sentiments and feelings. My answer would be, I do and I don't easily forgive someone. I can easily forgive someone if I know that he/she doesn't exactly mean what they did, like old men jumping to a vacant seat on the bus when your supposed to sit on it because they have rheumatism or what. I can always forgive that. But if I know that the deed was done with the intention of really hurting me, especially my family, then I don't easily forgive that.

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Walker Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 80	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? Well...it actually depends on what the circumstances is...and who is to be forgiven.... If a person has committed a mistake unknowingly...then it is very easy for me to forgive him.....but if the mistake was done purposefully....then that person has to not only forget of being forgiven, but instead should be ready for a pay-back.... There is one person though..in this world...who always is forgiven by me...always...for whatever the mistakes are....done knowingly or unknowingly....and that is my wife... Regards, Walker

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crowhit Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 31	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? Maybe I can forgive him/her if I think the mistake he/she did was for good and I could also do that if I was in his/her place. But I generally don't forgive people who do mistakes when they know the consequences of their actions.

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ro1e Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 25	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? I always forgive people. we are humans and sometimes we wrong. But if someone was wrong in a way that it hurt me, so I did not forget him so quickly. A lot of my acquaintances from the past forgave me, but they still remember me what I did. I say: Friends are Friends and you need to forgive each other (:

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Atubiga Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Replies: 27	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? He who forgives is always forgiven. Forgive and forget so the Lord thy God can forgive you your sins. We are human beings and human beings are full of errors. We all make mistakes but the wise man is the one who learns from his mistakes and from the mistakes of others. The wise man is the one who always tries to find a space in his heart to forgive his neighbor. Forgive and forget so our world can be a better place. Forgive and forget so you can live longer.

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zowie Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 79	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? I know it is better to forget other people for their mistakes and let go. I try to practice this in my life as much as possible. But it is not possible to do this in practice as the concept is preached. Many a times the bad feelings are going to stay back in your memory and going to come back and haunt you.

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shailbpl Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 28	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? Forgiving is hard! But I can do it, no problem. Depending on the situation the time may vary to forgive someone... as of now I've forgiven all those who have hurt me in one way or another... If you don't forgive, it only causes harm to your emotions, seriously....i agree....you can't forgive the person so easily....

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oxis Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 19	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? Forgiving is not as easy as chewing bubble gums and spitting them out when you think they're tasteless. It takes so much of time, much effort to forgive and forget what is said and done. It takes some time to learn that it is only when you forgive others that you can forgive yourself for whatever hurt it may bring back to you. Forgiving is not enough to heal the bursting feelings of revenge. One has to entail the will to forget for it is only by forgetting what wrongs they did to you that you can start moving on.

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ZammaJann Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 34	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? If somebody makes a mistake, even a selfish careless mistake, even if they should have known better, it is easy for me to forgive them. If somebody maliciously hurts me, and then later is truly sorry for the act and tries to make amends, it is difficult for me to forgive, but I will do my best to forgive that person. If somebody maliciously hurts me and is not sorry for the act, then I cannot provide forgiveness. Even though I know it might be better for me spiritually to just forgive that person and move on. If they are not sorry for an intentional hurt they have done to me, then I cannot forgive that.

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Kofi I love Africa Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Ghana Replies: 404	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? I try to forgive those who offend me because I was trained to do so. However, it is not easy forgiving someone when you know for sure that what they did to you was intentional. If someone feels sorry for what they have done to you then the right thing is to forgive and forget. However, when the offender doesn't see any mistake in what he or she did to you, then becomes really difficult to forgive such people.

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spyece Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 2	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? I remember my past where i have troubled my friends a lot and they have troubled me equally, I always feel that the relationship between two people is equal, you keep respecting people and they keep respecting you. So when some one makes a mistake like maybe he or she might hurt me then i mostly forgive them as i try real hard to maintain relationship, but i do let them know that they have made this mistake and they should avoid it, and then i let them decide what to do. But sometimes i do loose control on myself and never forgive someone.

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clise Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 9	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? I will forgive a person depending on their mistakes. I can hold a grudge on someone for years but I can forgive someone only after a few second he/she irks me. I sound complicated, am I? :p

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ThatGirl Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Replies: 29	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? It depends on how bad the mistake was, and whether or not it had been malicious or intentional. Generally, I forgive easily enough, and my anger passes quickly. I am even able to forgive big things and continue my relationships well. But I have no problems cutting ties with those who meant to hurt me, or those that I love, or who make a lot of 'mistakes'.

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Charles Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Replies: 15	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? I don't think forgiving is always the easiest thing in the world to do - however I feel that you should always forgive everyone so I try my hardest to do so. Forgiving however does not mean you should not protect yourself in the future from being wronged again - especially if it caused physical or economic harm.

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0099 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Replies: 29	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? well this question is as difficult as the implementation. forgiving some one is a matter of great patience and courage. its takes a lot of self introspection ans control to let go of someone who has hurt you mentally or physically. but once you do something like this you realize that you have placed yourself in a much better position than the culprit. it also takes a lot of time to totally forget about the wrong done to you as it is the human tendency to remember the bad even if it forgets the good.....

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r1superman Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Replies: 35	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? This all depends on the situation. If someone had a bad day and decided to let it out on me I would forgive them because I know we all have those kind of days. However if they are a close friend and they back stab me, or something of that nature it is going to take a lot more than a simple "I'm sorry," for me to forgive them!

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powerlifer Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Replies: 53	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? Due to being so messed over by people in my life i have massive trust issues in which if someone does something i cant forgive them easily at all and i end up ending the relationship quickly even for minor things. I guess its going to take someone who isn't a fraud, liar etc to build my trust back up in people in general. It can take a lot of time mentally to heal from peoples mistakes ive found and that doesn't happen overnight.

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poster87 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Replies: 10	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? Honestly. it depends what he or she did because if he or she did something minor.. its going to be easy to forgive him or her. as for something major i honestly will never forgive him.. well i would but i'll be hard to forget about it.

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ZCY3270 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Replies: 6	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? That depends on the nature of the error. If it is small things, I will be very easy to forgive it. If it is a matter of principle then I would think this person has bad character and stay away from him.

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nishant20 Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Replies: 49	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? it is always preferable to forgive someone and not looking for revenge always because if all the people in the world would start looking for revenge it would definatly increase violence in the world and would destroy the world's peace slowly and steadily moreover, if you are religious, believe in god.if you have not done wrong to anybody, surely you will also lead a good life

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cena_john Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Replies: 63	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? It depends from person to person. I don't want to loose a good friend for silly prank he has played on me. if somebody plays double games at work then definitely i don't want to forgive him/her. He is to be taken to task then

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ferdousx Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Replies: 30	Re: Do you easily forgive someone? There are two terms - revenge and avenge. I think it is because it depends on the crime. If someone needs to payback you have to do it. But the best thing is to forgive. Who knows may be, he will repent and become a good person some day. I always try to forgive others if something bad happens to me. But I guess I am not always able to do that. but, as I said, I try. Because, I believe nobody is better than nobody.